July 26, 2014
Sometimes the answers to the basic life questions are the hardest to answer. Sometimes the answers are hard to give because the person asking will not understand your answer. They want or expect a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer and if you try to explain your ‘maybe’ they tell you to grow up and do what you are supposed to do.
Most people make the same decisions in life and end up in roughly the same place as the others who choose to make the same line of life decisions. They can answer the yes/no questions with a yes or a no. The thing that the people asking the question don’t want to think about or ask is whether those expected choices make you, everyone, or anyone happy. They are simply expected because they are expected.
We all have the same number of hours in the day. What we do with those hours can have a huge impact on what what happens with our lives right now and with our future.
There is a saying that pops up often when talking with entrepreneurs about making sacrifices now to have a brighter future. We constantly make decisions about how to spend our time. When we make decisions to spend our time in the “non standard” ways we end up in a position where we have to answer those “easy” life questions with not so easy answers. “Why aren’t you dating?” is a tricky question to answer when you spend all of your time working on a project you love and don’t see much gain from putting the project down to date someone who won’t make you feel as great as seeing your project become a success. Not many people understand that perspective.
It’s not that I don’t want to date, my decisions are based on what I value right now. Do I love watching movies, yep. When was the last time I watched a movie? That’s a hard question to answer. I enjoy watching movies and they can be beautiful and inspiring but I would rather spend those 2 hours working on building my projects.
Recently, I watched a documentary on Hulu called The Startup Kids (I was working on a knitting project while watching the documentary, by the way). It was a common thread with the people they interviewed that the successful startups were built on long periods of time when they would wake up, get to work, stopping only to eat and go to bed. A few people mention losing boyfriends/girlfriends in the middle of building their startups and while they don’t seem happy about this fact, they could have made the decision to focus less on the startup and work more on the relationship (but didn’t).
The majority of people follow the same path, some of us just choose a different path. Different does not mean bad or wrong but that is something not everyone understands.
March 17, 2014
Spring is nearly here and all I can think about is wearing lightweight dresses and spending time on the beach. In the part of the country I live in currently we had a colder than average winter. It seemed to bother those around me much more than it bothered me. I like the seasonal transition due solely on my excitement about styling my next season outfits. In 6 months I’ll be thinking about the layers of tights and sweaters I will be donning. Right now I keep thinking about hats to protect me from the sun and adorable shorts with light weight shirts.
February 13, 2014
Fashion is a huge business and should be taken seriously. It is also supposed to be fun.
Have fun with what you wear and don’t take it too seriously.
Be serious about the business side and don’t let responsibilities slip.
January 11, 2014
I’m not one for New Year’s Resolutions. If you think you need to make changes in your life there is no point in putting off making changes until January 1st of any given year. With that being said, there is something refreshing about beginning a new year. One has 365 days to claim a particular activity, change, or accomplishment happened in a universally understood frame of time that can be viewed consistently in relation to current time to place it in an appropriate context. It makes telling the story later on easier.
Much of my life has been in chaos over the last 6 months. I have hardly had time to make much of anything. However, I am getting back into things. With +6 months of pent up creative energy I have become a chronic project starter. I’m feeling impatient. I want to start working on all the new ideas while not completing many projects. But I will get there, I will complete each and every one of them.
The brilliant thing about moving is you have the opportunity to develop new and better habits. For me this means better organization of my work space and materials, and not getting into the routine of distracting myself. For the first time in my life, I do not have cable TV. I’ve been without cable for 3 months and I’m so far down the rabbit hole of bizarre TV on Hulu and YouTube that I never want to return to “normal” TV viewing. Shows and videos I am watching are inspiring me think about life things in new ways and are changing how I view my roll in the world.
And with that, I’m not going to declare that I am beginning a new phase in my life because no matter what time keeps passing and I keep evolving. I am the sum of all of my influences and those influences grow and change with every day as I move through the world and this life. I’m not going to say that 2014 is going to be the best year yet because there is no way to know that. All I can do is continue to work on my projects and attempt to have a positive impact on the world.
May 30, 2013
I lived in Chicago for three years. Within the first 6 months I lived there I had decided that this was not the city for me. It was fun for a while. I lived in a fun neighborhood of young single adults. I was walking distance to several music venues and great shopping.
And then young families moved into the area in droves. While walking to get groceries I used to pass good looking people with great fashion sense. Then it turned into a battle of dodging strollers and getting yelled at by a parent when the child they were dragging along and not paying attention to ran into the shopping bag I was carrying.
I never settled in to Chicago. I could never commit to purchasing a Chicago Card for using public transportation or buying the IPass for speedy passage through the toll booths. I simply could not commit.
I also struggled to make a living in Chicago. The full-time positions I was offered did not pay enough to cover my basic bills to live in a safe neighborhood. I worked a part-time job that ran very hot and cold for how many hours I would work on any given week.
I wasn’t sure about what was going to push me to actually leave Chicago until it came along. Just as I had decided it was time to leave I began a series of interviews with a company I had wanted to work for for a very long time. Despite the interview process beginning in Chicago, the position I was ultimately offered was not in Chicago/surrounding suburbs but in a city a few hours east and near where some of my family lives. I accepted the job and quickly wrapped up things in Chicago.
The Chicago Chapter of my life is officially closed and I have very complicated feelings about my time there. I know I will not settle long term in the new place I’m living but it is a good resting point in life where I can travel and find new adventures.
March 30, 2013
Wes Anderson and Roman Coppola for Prada. What a delightful 3 part series!