July 26, 2014
Sometimes the answers to the basic life questions are the hardest to answer. Sometimes the answers are hard to give because the person asking will not understand your answer. They want or expect a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer and if you try to explain your ‘maybe’ they tell you to grow up and do what you are supposed to do.
Most people make the same decisions in life and end up in roughly the same place as the others who choose to make the same line of life decisions. They can answer the yes/no questions with a yes or a no. The thing that the people asking the question don’t want to think about or ask is whether those expected choices make you, everyone, or anyone happy. They are simply expected because they are expected.
We all have the same number of hours in the day. What we do with those hours can have a huge impact on what what happens with our lives right now and with our future.
There is a saying that pops up often when talking with entrepreneurs about making sacrifices now to have a brighter future. We constantly make decisions about how to spend our time. When we make decisions to spend our time in the “non standard” ways we end up in a position where we have to answer those “easy” life questions with not so easy answers. “Why aren’t you dating?” is a tricky question to answer when you spend all of your time working on a project you love and don’t see much gain from putting the project down to date someone who won’t make you feel as great as seeing your project become a success. Not many people understand that perspective.
It’s not that I don’t want to date, my decisions are based on what I value right now. Do I love watching movies, yep. When was the last time I watched a movie? That’s a hard question to answer. I enjoy watching movies and they can be beautiful and inspiring but I would rather spend those 2 hours working on building my projects.
Recently, I watched a documentary on Hulu called The Startup Kids (I was working on a knitting project while watching the documentary, by the way). It was a common thread with the people they interviewed that the successful startups were built on long periods of time when they would wake up, get to work, stopping only to eat and go to bed. A few people mention losing boyfriends/girlfriends in the middle of building their startups and while they don’t seem happy about this fact, they could have made the decision to focus less on the startup and work more on the relationship (but didn’t).
The majority of people follow the same path, some of us just choose a different path. Different does not mean bad or wrong but that is something not everyone understands.